Self-worth is at the core of our very selves—our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are intimately tied into how we view our worthiness and value as human beings.
We constantly measure our worth, this is sometimes developed through comparisons. Most of us use our own internal measures to judge our value as humans on our appearance, how much money we earn, what type of job we have, how successful our career is, how many friends we have, who we know/our social circles, our relationship status and our achievements.
After this time in lockdown- we can see all these things we measured ourselves and each other on are fragile, ever changing and impermanent.
Instead of chasing things that temporarily boost our deemed self-value, we should measure our self-worth by who we are at our core of our being. To have good self-worth, we don’t need to be perfect or even to have everything figured out. We only need to accept ourselves as we are at this moment in time and see ourselves as whole despite whatever we may feel we are lacking. We approach ourselves with compassionate curiosity.
Instead of listing all the factors that go into self-worth, here are 13 things that do not determine our self-worth:
- Our careers
- Our social media following
- Our age
- Our appearance
- Other people
- Our to-do list
- The number of friends we have
- The amount of money (or lack of) in our bank
- Whether we have children or not
- Fudging Susan
- Anything or anyone but ourselves
Right now, in this moment and in all future moments on this earth, you are intrinsically valuable just as you are. You are amazing. #effyourbeautystandards #selflove #selfworth